Another thing to consider is feminism has intergrated itself into education. For good & for ill, it has a strong pressence at colleges and even high schools.
However,it creates a sort of "beaten over the head with it" annoyance factor sometimes.
Yes, I see females as equals.
Yes, sometimes I like to look at sexy depictions of women
Yes, I like porn but it doesn't mean I see women as lifeless souless objects. Besides, what single male doesn't fall back on pornography of some sort when he's not getting the real thing?
As for Sarkesian? I dunno,man. She just doesn't give off the vibe of "I've been a gamer all my life". Sure, ther's a picture of her with huge stacks of games but I have a feeling she got a lot of them with the kick-starter donation money. Before her "Tropes in games" series she did other youtube videos yet she didn't seem to talk about games much. If anything it seemed like she chose games as her pet project just to further her own soap-box bias agenda. (And for the record, there are females on youtube who disagree with Anita strongly. It's not just basement dwelling dude-bros with chips on their shoulders.)
Most of the "negative tropes" can have positive connotations too. For example, Princess Peach isn't just a helpless damsel. She's so valuable and such a good person Mario & Luigi are willing to risk their lives to save her. See? You can take any of this stuff and apply different angles and points of view to it. It's not that difficult. You don't need a college degree in sociology to have common sense and an objective thought process.
Beyond that, "stay at home mothers" and "women who love to cook" do exist and I bet they feel offended whenever a radical feminist comes along and says they embody a negative stereotype just because they're fulfilling more traditional womanly roles.
Also, what about women who enjoy exotic dancing and enjoy being in pornos? While pro-sex feminists probably wouldn't have a problem with them I get the feeling feminists like Anita would say they're "slaves of the patriarchy" even if they're in fact doing their professions of their own free will.
My problem with the most vocal feminists is they claim to have a solution for everyone when the truth is that's bullshit. Why? Because we're all diverse indviduals.
Frankly I don't even like the term "feminist" because the very word puts femininity above all other things. You can't claim to be for "total equality" when you rally under a word that's sole objective is to benefit only one group of people.
Why can't feminists just call themselves equalists or egalitarians? There would be a lot less confusion.