I already wrote about this in your last blog, but I'll put my two cents in again. You can like or dislike Quiet's design as much as you want. Attacking or defending Kojima's character is uncalled for. At the end of the day we don't really know anything about him as a person. He could be a great guy or a giant jerk. We don't know. It's the same problem with a lot of discussion on the internet. Attacking the character of a person you know nothing about because they like something that you don't is wrong.
Carl doesn't sound like a good guy though. He may not hate women, but he clearly doesn't respect them. I feel bad for his fictional (if she is fictional) daughter. For her to grow up with a parent that feels that she can't grow up to be whatever she wants has to be emotionally damaging.
And yes, Western games don't receive as much criticism as Japanese games when it comes to exploitative content. It's been going on for a while. I think it's because Western games are more popular at the moment and journalists don't want to piss off too many of their readers. My friend's thoughts on the subject are that Japan is just better at presenting the female form then Western developers, so they stand out more. Who knows?
People who want better representations of women in games really need to go out and buy the games that do just that. Mirror's Edge, Beyond Good and Evil, and Remember Me are a few titles that they should throw some money at. Attacking the character of game developers and fans isn't going to change anything.